Success means different things to different people. It can mean having a great career in a particular industry, it can mean starting your own family or it can mean accomplishing things against the odds. Whatever your definition is, the principles of reaching success are pretty similar.
Define Your Goals - it’s important to have your goals clear in your mind, and the best way of being clear in your mind is by getting it onto paper. There are different ways you can do this. If you’re a more visual person, then creating a vision board may be a good way to go about it. Gather photos that represent the things you define as success as well as including some words or quotes that may inspire you. Having a vision board somewhere where you can see it every day is a big motivator to keep working hard for it. Another option is a ‘goal’ journal where you can write down the different goals you have and what they mean to you.
See what steps you need to take - the next part is finding the different paths (or even just your path) that will take you to your goal. Say your goal is setting up your own successful business... Firstly, you’d need to come up with a name and definition of what your business does. Secondly, you need to register your business. Thirdly, you need to create a website or social media presence. And so on. There’s never just one way of reaching a goal and you may have to adapt steps along the way, but this part is important to help keep you on track to your goal and not just wishing for it.
Review your current lifestyle - is there something you can change now that will help you get on track? Going back to the business example, you would need to spend a lot of time working on your business, promoting it as well as doing the actual work. Perhaps you don’t have the time or energy at the moment. Why is that? It could be that your diet isn’t great (hence the lack of energy) or it could be that you’re spending too much time doing something that isn’t adding to your life (i.e. hours of video gaming). It all depends on what your goals are but the idea is to adapt your life to accommodate those goals, not to keep adding things to your to-do list. After all, we don’t want to burnout.
Being Strict - If you want to achieve your goals, you will have to be somewhat strict with yourself, especially in the beginning. You may have to push yourself into slightly uncomfortable situations, or you may have to sacrifice something more fun every now and again. Being disciplined with yourself is a huge part of becoming successful.
Review - As mentioned earlier, goals can change. Every so often, take the time to review your goals and the steps to get there. If you are continually finding yourself lacking motivation, or you are really struggling with something, then maybe it isn’t for you. Let’s go back to the business example. Say the business idea was becoming a videographer. As you’re getting the practice and getting more gigs, you notice that you feel exhausted and you don’t look forward to the travelling. What you do find though is that you love editing. Your business goal may then change from running a videography business to a video-editing business. Planning for success also means being able to adapt for success.
What does success mean to you?
Happiness
Money
Independence
Love
My Goal is to be able to have my family together occasionally with no contrasts among tge family members. The only person that is blocking my goal is one of my daughters. She does not want to stay in the presence of my present husband. She does not forgive, not even to make me, her mother, feel better. My present husband has behaved wrong, but this behaviour is also part of her ex partner, of her father and others in the family. We have all forgiven them. But she refuses to firgive him.. she know this situation hurts me but is determined to continue in her behaviour. So I feel bad about not being able of having some family reunions…